Life coach - Step 69 of 100 - CHANGE - Subtleness

One of my best friends (one of my best - if it could be possible) Ravi Vadapalli currently heading Virtusa as the Director brings about change in a subtle manner. As a team member at ISB he would ask " Do you feel that we should do this in this manner"? Even when he was right and we were wrong, he still would enquire what he felt if we did things in a different approach (his approach). Never once did we feel that he was imposing himself. And he let us err if we felt strongly that our approach was correct. It was more important for him in the initial stage that we gel together as a team than getting the problem corrected. He knew that the problem could always be corrected later on but the important thing was building a winning team.

I have seen Presidents of US doing that. They dont talk of my initiative, they say "OUR initiative". This is what "WE have to do"

I have seen Col Rajesh Sahai using loud thinking while planning operations. He would say " I am thinking loudly, we could use this approach, have this people move up here and lay the ambush here, etc". If none of us interrupted him, he would say "On the other hand, I am thinking loudly again, we could use another approach and have these defense positions, etc". And then he would throw the stage to us for discussions. I suspect that he had already thought of the plan he needed to execute, he was basically fine tuning it and getting us onboard without us realising it. In the end every officer in the war room thought that it was his plan.

How do you bring about change?