Life coach - Step 68 of 100 - CHANGE - I am important, make me feel that

Col Deshmukh my CO won the gardening competition, band competition, almost every competition that we ever participated in. I played an instrumental role in winning cross country, audits, firing, all events that involved the Training Officer.

What was common to all those events was the "He made me feel important and hence I did my best".

To bring about the change, this is important. We want to enlist supporters for our cause, we want to build a sustainable momentum that converts the fence-sitters, we want to get to the critical mass after which the change continues on its own. And nothing is as important as letting the other person feel that he is important to the cause.

Now why the other person feels he is important could be anything from Maslow's hierarchy model to the trust and respect the other person has put in you or your annual appraisal. Whatever the driving force the catalyst is the "He made me feel important".

And making one feel important is not about lavishing praises or false niceties. It is about asking opinions on how things could be better, what should need to change, what the leader can do to make the change smoother or help you perform your job better. It is about dealing in an adult-adult world.